If someone lives in America, they know what a divorce is. It is also likely that they know the statistics od divorce – about 40-50% of first marriages end within 10 years. However, relationship experts are putting forward a new idea to save some people’s relationships: a sleep divorce. They suggest that a sleep divorce helps couples avoid a legal one.
What is a sleep divorce though? Because let’s be real, any term with the word “divorce” in it is scary. Read on to learn what a sleep divorce is and how it helps preserve relationships in the long term.
What Is A Sleep Divorce?
Do you have a partner who snores? Are you married to a blanket hog? It may be time to consider a sleep divorce. Which, simply put, is sleeping separately from one another. Some couples opt for an “I Love Lucy” situation, with two beds in the same room. On the other hand, some couples sleep in completely different rooms.
A sleep divorce is useful in a number of situations.
- One or both partners snore or make other noises in their sleep.
- One or both partners move around or kick around in their sleep.
- A partner that has issues with sleep walking
- Partners on different schedules, i.e. one is a night owl, one is an early bird.
- Partners who require different temperatures or other environmental differences for sleeping. This includes everything from level of light to audio stimulus.
How Does It Help?
Sleep divorces enable many individuals and couples to have a good night’s sleep. As romantic and sweet as it is to cuddle up to a partner and doze off, it isn’t always realistic. If one partner keeps the other up by snoring all night long, it leads to a spat at some point.
A majority of adults require seven hours of sleep a night to function. However, eight or nine hours is actually better for the human body. If one partner does not meet the minimum, or experiences disrupted sleep, it ultimately leads to conflict.
Sleep deprivation does crazy things to the human body and psyche.
- Increased irritability or mood swings
- Impaired memory
- Decrease in alertness and ability to process
- Lower quality of life due to lacking the energy to go participate in daily activities or hobbies.
- Injuries heal slower.
The partner without sleep is in a grumpy mood due to the lack of sleep. While the situation is technically the other partner’s fault, it is oftentimes not in their control. This situation often leads to an argument. The partner with little sleep blames the other person. The person who slept fine gets defensive because they feel that they are not responsible. Then, the argument spirals out of control because both parties are acting out of emotional instinct.
If your relationship struggles with sleep-related conflict, try a sleep divorce today, before you need a legal divorce.